Defining your clarity

Hello dear Human,

How are you doing this fine Monday? (or whatever day you stumble on this post). This is coming to let you know there is still time to redefine and reshape your reality by clarifying what you want.

“Clarity is the ability to see something so clearly in your mind that you can describe it well.”

“Wherever you are in life, you can change your reality by focusing on your clarity.”

I will let you chew on the quotes above as you go into this week.

For more please look for the, Clarity versus Reality, how to design the life you dream of from where you are.

It is available on and also available on

Have a clearly defined week ahead!

How much do you want it?


At the end of last year, I made some of those crazy type decisions we often make in a moment of spiritual enlightenment. The type of decision you get up from and say to yourself, “wait, what did I just commit to?”

I will share that decision at the end of the year when all the craziness has finished manifesting. For now, I want to talk about our desires and how we let them slide.

We say we want something and we start off all gungho and determined to achieve, but then we meet obstacle numbers 1,2,3…and we begin to sing a new song. Mind you, it is the same with me. But success does not come to those who give up and this is something I am learning everyday. It takes grit, it takes suffering, it takes a lot of backbreaking work but eventually it gets done.Success is not in the outcome, it is in the process.
This year I have faced a lot of challenges but I have also learnt to pull up my trousers and get dirty in the mud. As a result, I believe I have seen more books birthed this year than at any other period in my writing career.

You want to know how I have managed to overcome my inherent laziness and do what I need to do? It’s all down in my book, “Clarity versus Reality, how to design the life you want from where you are.”
I will share stories and insights from it soon.

For now, pick up that project and get to work again. Giving up is not even an option

That image on this post? one of the several books this past few weeks…


What do you really want?

Today I begin sharing a few excerpts from my book on Clarity. Enjoy!

What do you really want? How badly do you want it? What are you prepared to do to get that thing you want so badly?
One thing I have come to realize is that most people do not really want the things they think they want. Their desires are usually nothing more than lazy wishes. As the saying goes, ‘’if wishes were horses, beggars would ride.’’
You don’t see many beggars riding horses do you? Wishes are not horses, wishes are ephemeral thoughts that float in and out of our minds at will. In order to make a wish a reality, you need to take hold of the thought and give it substance.
And that is what this book is all about.
I have wished for many things in my life (I wanted to be a tall girl, at least 5ft.8 inches tall, but I’m barely 5ft 4inches!) I wished to have a degree from the UK before age thirty. I wished for a home by the beach. I wished to be at the opening ceremony of the 1996 Olympics in Atlanta
So many wishes that never saw the light of day! In looking back, I realize that they did not see the light of day because they were thoughts, I never took hold of and made them into reality. In other words, they remained in my head and went out as easily as they came in.
On the other hand, there are quite a number of thoughts that seemed totally impossible at the time they floated into my subconscious that are today my realities. I will be sharing some of those thoughts-turned-into-realities with you as we go along.
Human beings are essentially co-creators with God. In the Bible it is clearly stated:
“let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness…”
This statement came immediately after the account of the creation of the Heavens and the Earth. Now, if something is made in the likeness of another, it usually has the same properties as the original. It has the same abilities and capabilities. Meaning therefore, that if man was made in the image and likeness of the creator, he has the capacity to create. Again, the Bible in another place says, ‘’…as He is so are we in this world…”
If all of this is true, why then do we live so far below what we desire? Could it be that we do not really want the things we say we want? Or is it simply a lack of understanding of how to get what we desire?

Clarity Versus Reality is due for release in April.

Define your gain


No pain, no gain?
March 12, 2019 By Elsie Dennis

I took this snapshot on my way from the gym where I’d spent an hour listening to my instructor shout “no pain, no gain, repeatedly as he did his best to wear us out.

No pain, no gain. I’m not sure I agree. After all, I was sweating because of the weight I had gained and I can assure you the weight gain came from pleasurable indulgence. The issue here for me is the type of pain or gain we are talking about.
Sacrifice is pain and if applied in the right direction it leads to gain in the right direction.
But sweat and suffering does not automatically lead to the right kind of gain.

Today, redefine your pain. Sweat for the right reasons. Be clear about what your want to gain and the pain you are prepared to handle. Clarity always brings success.

My book on the subject of clarity is out on April 1st. Book your copy now.

From the classroom..

We continue with our series from the classroom which has been running on our website. This is a piece from one of our students..

Oh Nigeria my country!

I think I’m in an emotionally abusive relationship with Nigeria. For a few days now, I have been dealing with nightmares and waking up to news of gloom and doom. The boom of good news has been replaced by the burst of sad events. And we seem to be nowhere near enough.

I was born in Ondo state but I lived the early part of my life in Ogbadibo, Benue state. I loved the peace, serenity and love around, and in Adum Market, where another part of my childhood days played before my eyes. During those years, I saw Fulani herdsmen, leading a mass of cattle with a long wooden staff. As children, we, like many of our parents always wondered how one or two small boys with canes lead a herd of cattle, without hassle. It was always fascinating to watch.

Fast forward to 2010, one or two cases had been reported in the news, that armed herdsmen had killed farmers in some part of the country. I was agitated because the herdsmen I knew never carry guns. Five years down the line, this barbaric act had repeated itself so much we could confirmed that herdsmen were now wielding guns. This situation has become a peril to farmers till date.

I am still asleep…

I woke up that morning to the sound of the phone beeping. As a matter of fact, it was the beeping that woke me up.

I took the call groggily and turned round to go back to sleep. Then I noticed the time was past 6am and I should have been up much earlier.

My first response to that information from the clock was, “I am still asleep.”

How could I still be asleep when I had taken a call and seen clearly that it was well past my wake up time?

But that is how we sometimes run our lives. We refuse to wake up and face reality, even when we know it time to do so.

We walk through life half asleep and end up waking up well after we have missed vital deadlines, and fallen into trouble.

I see it happen everyday:

The student who becomes serious after failing an exam they had the capacity to pass; the business man who sits up when he has “slept” through the fall of his corporation; the distressed man who begins to run helter skelter when his ignored wife moves out of the home…

The list is endless.

Some people say, experience is the best teacher but does the experience have to be yours?

The answer is “No!”

Learn from others’ mistakes and shape your life. Walk awake through your life. Make right choices, and follow through.

It is past your wake up time my friend,get up and brew your own coffee!



I have lost count of the number of times I stood in front of my closet agonizing over what t-shirt to put on for my early morning walks, or to go to the shop or even just wear around the house. Sometimes I wear the same T-shirt repeatedly simply because I believe I do not have enough.

In the past few weeks I have been doing a lot of travelling and last week I came home from a long trip away with loads of laundry. Knowing that I would soon be off again on another trip I decided that I would wash a little every day until I was done with the backlog. My washing machine is bad so I would have to do all the washing by hand. And that’s how I made this startling discovery.

While sorting through my t-shirts, I realized that I seemed to have quite a number more than I thought. I began to think that I possibly had up to a dozen or more. So, I started to count. I have a separate space for t-shirts in my closet which I had largely ignored and mixed up with up other items of clothing. I decided, ‘’no more, this space would be for t-shirts only.’’
Then I took inventory.

As of this morning, I have sorted, rescued, found, washed, hung and retrieved twenty-five t-shirts from various places of my house and still counting!
Twenty-five t-shirts? Me?? How? From where did they come? How is it I never knew I was so T-shirt rich?

I was pleasantly surprised. Simply by deciding to be more focused with my wardrobe maintenance I have found a huge cache of clothes I didn’t even know I had. All types, colours and sizes of t-shirts, bought by me or received as gifts at one time or the other in the recent past, yet I lived my life like I had maybe half a dozen t-shirts!

What other areas of my life might I be complaining and grumbling about simply because I’m not looking closely enough? What challenges are you crying over because you aren’t taking proper stock? Isn’t it possible that if we focused more on the blessings we would find that we aren’t lacking as much as we thought?

Maybe, before we complain about that thing that isn’t working, we should focus instead on what is. Maybe all we really need to do at this time is go count the t-shirts. They may be more than you think!